When I first started doing photography professionally, I had no idea how powerful an experience this really is for most of the people I get to photograph. I wanted to be a fashion photographer and you feel like a model for the day. That ended up not at all being why I was getting booked.
I always meet with everyone first to find out who you are, why you want to do the shoot, and how I can tailor it specifically toward your unique personality. The more I learned, the more I realized I had a huge responsibility to every single woman who steps in front of my camera to create something special.
I started this list with 7 reasons but I kept finding more as I looked back through all of the shoots I've done. Here are 13 reasons why women choose this boudoir experience. If one of these resonates with you, know that you are not alone, or weird for wanting to do it. This really is all about celebrating yourself, something none of us really do enough of.
Here are 13 reasons to treat yourself to a boudoir shoot
1. You are single. F yeah!
Ending a relationship is never easy or fun. It doesn't have to be a time of mourning though! This marks a fresh start and a chance to show the world all the awesomeness you bring to the table. Despite the pressure society puts on us, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. Own it! Call your best friend, pour a glass of wine, and go pick out some new lingerie. Doing a boudoir shoot is the perfect way to flaunt what you've got and remind yourself that they're missing out.
2. Motherhood - You made a human!
Your body has not belonged to you for 9 months, and it's changed from a year ago. You should be so proud! You made a person! Motherhood is such a beautiful thing and a boudoir shoot is a great way to celebrate this time in your life. You can still be beautiful despite wanting to wear yoga pants and a tank top all the time now. Looking back at these photos in 5, 10, 15 years will remind you of this special time and you'll be so thankful that you have those memories. This can either be a maternity shoot, or we can schedule your session for after you've had your baby.
3. Celebrate getting in shape/gains at the gym. High five!
You didn't eat that kale because you liked it. Or maybe you did and I'm jealous. You've been working so hard to get in shape there is no better way to celebrate those wins than by doing a boudoir shoot and showing it off. You've earned it.
4. You’re getting married! Congrats!
A beautiful, intimate boudoir album has quickly become the gift of gifts for your partner on your wedding day. It's something you can look through together or your partner can enjoy your gift when thinking about how much they love you.
5. Because it’s Tuesday. Do you really need a reason to be awesome?
Seriously. Why not?
6. Healing from trauma. You’re a survivor.
You've made it through. It's so hard to get out of an abusive relationship and rebuild your life. I have tremendous respect for your courage. It's a long journey to start believing again that you ARE worth it and that you ARE good enough. But you ARE worth it. You ARE good enough. Treating yourself to such an empowering experience and keeping something with you to remind yourself that you are a strong, beautiful woman is something that no one can ever take from you. You own it.
7. You’re only this young once
I was hesitant to put this in here because I never want to believe that right now is the best I'll ever be. I don't believe in ever reaching a peak. Then I realized that I wasn't looking at this the right way. I've heard people joke and say that "you'll never be this young and hot again." And while I don't believe that beauty and age are related, it is quite true that you'll never be this young again. And celebrating this is amazing.
8. Love yourself. If anyone deserves your love, it’s you.
We spend so much time focused on our careers, our families, our Facebook status... we don't take the time to actually take care of ourselves. Taking a day to get pampered by my professional stylist, doing an empowering photo shoot, and then literally having a book you can look at as often as you want that shows you how amazing your are, might just be what you need. It's not selfish to treat ourselves once in a while. It's necessary.
9. F**K cancer
I have tremendous respect for everyone who has battled breast cancer. Whether you would like to be photographed before your mastectomy to have a keepsake that celebrates YOUR body, or after you've kicked cancer's ass and you want to celebrate the body you've fought so hard for, it would be an honor for me to be the one to photograph you. You're a survivor, and a badass human.
10. Own your sexy
You are allowed to be sexy. There is no rule book that says otherwise. Trust me. I've checked. Your day job may force you to hold back. You might be worried about what your friends would think. But do you know whose opinion matters? Yours. If you want to show off the lingerie that's been sitting in your closet, what better time than now? This is on your terms. Own it. Be the goddess who's been dying to come out and play!
Confidence is sexy. Sometimes it takes diving in to the deep end to realize how good a swimmer you are. One of the reasons so many women choose to do a boudoir shoot is because of the confidence they gain from it. All of the things you imagine yourself being are already there. You just needed something to help you see them. I can't make you into someone you aren't. But what I can do is show you the confident, feminine, strong woman you already are. It's like when Glenda the Good Witch appears at the end of the Wizard of Oz to let you know that 'everything you were looking for was right there with you all along."
12. It’s actually a lot of fun. Hooray!
You can go to brunch, or go shopping, or to that place in Daily City that lets you throw axes (which is actually pretty cool) but none of those things give you a book to take home that shows you how amazing you are. You get to show off some of your favorite lingerie, and possibly buy a new set. Then get pampered by my professional stylist before doing a photo shoot. And you get to choose from a bunch of gorgeous photos of YOU to take home in beautifully crafted album so you can open it up as often as you'd like and remind yourself how amazing you are. That beats bottomless mimosas any day.
13. Insert your reason for not doing a boudoir shoot
I often get emails that say something like, "I'd love to do a shoot with you but I want to lose 10 more pounds first." Or "I don't have anyone to give the photos to." Or "I'm not a model..." These are the most common reasons I hear from women who don't think they're ready to do a boudoir shoot. Well, no one tries yoga because they're already flexible. You stretch to become flexible. Step outside of your comfort zone. Jump in to the deep end. You just my surprise yourself. Doing a boudoir shoot just might be the best thing you've done for yourself in a long time, and there's nothing holding back now.